In custody disputes, fathers tend to think that they are squarely behind the eight-ball, even before they have an initial hearing before the court. This is because of well-founded fears that family court is a bastion for mothers and that men tend not to get a fair shake. The numbers support these fears. According to the U.S. Census Bureau, 80 percent of all single parent households are headed by women.
Nevertheless, there are ways for fathers to prepare and succeed custody actions. While there are no guarantees of success, and different circumstances to consider, this post offers a few important things for single fathers to consider as they prepare to face their fears in court.
Your situation is not so different – It is understandable that you fear your history being used against you (especially if it is a criminal record). But the people evaluating your case have likely seen worse. Keep in mind that parents are judged on their ability to care for their children and look out for their best interests, and imperfect parents do so all the time.
Your time is just as valuable – While you may not receive the ideal schedule for parenting time, take solace in knowing that courts understand that both parents’ time with the children is valued. So you should not worry about the other parent outright denying parenting time after the court has issued an order.
It’s all about the kids – The phrase “the best interests of the child” guides judges’ decisions, not the fears or suppositions of the other parent. So a parent’s unfounded worries about you will not cause you to lose or be denied parenting time.