Many Texas citizens will undergo a divorce at some point in their lives; 82,000 were registered statewide in 2010 alone. A great deal of confusion and uncertainty surrounds legal separation, and achieving a cordial resolution to the many facets of marital conflict is a seemingly insurmountable obstacle for many. A post-divorce coach detailed how she resolved these issues in her own divorce, which may prove insightful for anyone contemplating a divorce in the future.
She relates that she faced a bitter dispute over spousal support during her divorce proceeding. Her ex-husband requested that she maintain him financially while he returned to school, but the author didn’t feel that she should continue to accept responsibility for his financial well-being. The situation caused her quite a lot of stress until her friend told her she needed to do what was best for her own happiness. As a result, the author agreed to the maintenance condition and believes she saved herself emotional distress in doing so.
The coach’s situation emphasizes the usefulness of an intermediary during a divorce proceeding. In many cases, asset division and distinguishing marital property are much more difficult tasks than either party is initially aware of. Assets that once constituted separate property can become marital through the course of time, and not all assets are necessarily material objects; spousal support is just another form of complex asset division.
For all these reasons, an attorney’s presence can be an immensely valuable resource for both parties. An impartial third-party can help someone understand different perspectives they may not have previously considered. In addition, they may be able to assist in the divorce’s mediation and help each party reach an agreeable settlement.
Source: Texas Department of State Health Services, Texas Department of State Health Services, June 20, 2012
Source: Huffington Post, “Do You Want To Be Right Or Do You Want To Be Happy?“, Debbi Dickinson, June 18, 2013