People in Texas get married for many reasons and the same is true when they divorce. Although divorce no longer has the stigma it once did, that does not mean that people should just decide to move forward with the end of a marriage without seriously thinking it though. Considering important factors before taking that final step can help those whose marriage has grown into an endless dispute avoid making a rash choice based on emotions.
For many, marriage is not what they thought it would be. Thinking about why they got married at the start is a useful tactic to determine if the marriage is irretrievably broken, whether the factors that led to the marriage are still in place and if everyone would be better off ending the union. For those who are committed to the marriage and would like to make it work, considering counseling is an option. If one or both spouses do not even want to try to save the marriage, then this is often a signal that the heart is no longer in it.
Some situations can be salvaged and others can’t. Determining what the problems are and if they’re fixable can provide a roadmap to trying to remain married. Both sides have to be committed to trying to save it. Thinking about the marriage and how it started to crumble is useful. One example is examining the good and bad times from the previous five years. In the event that those five years are rife with pain and unhappiness, then it is probably preferable to move on. If there are happy times that make the marriage worth another try, that will be evident in the reflection.
Emotional and financial issues cannot be ignored at the end of a marriage. Divorce is not a small decision and it can take a lot of time and money if there are problems that are not easily solvable through mutual agreement, mediation and court.
Many people might not be able to support themselves if they divorce. Lifestyle is an inevitable factor in the final decision and whether or not it can be maintained. The most important point is to decide if life will be better without the spouse than with the spouse. Seeking help from a divorce lawyer can answer these questions and more and help to come to a thoughtful decision.
Source: The Huffington Post, “10 Questions To Ask Yourself Before Ending Your Marriage,” Brittany Wong, Sept. 11, 2015