People react to the pressure of conflict in different ways, and it may not even be consistent with who they are. For example, a calm and logical person may become irrational and angry during a high-conflict divorce.
Often, conflict can bring out behaviors that clients do not recognize or like to see in themselves. According to experts, it can be a matter of lack of experience with conflict which leaves people unsure of how to act. Many do not have the honed skills or knowledge to realize that resolving disputes can be done in either a negative way or in a positive one.
Reframing the negative narrative of conflict
Various forms of mediation can bring a positive approach to resolving areas of dispute in a divorce and/or custody agreement. It can start with clients determining what kind of personality they want to present during this process. They can find useful answers by asking themselves such questions as:
- What is this conflict really about?
- What behavior did you not like about yourself during initial negotiation?
- Where is this negative behavior modeled from?
- What do you not admire about it?
- What different outcome might result from a more constructive approach?
- Would you want this behavior described to friends, family, or colleagues who look to you as a role model?
- How might you ensure you exhibit a more desirable behavior during future negotiations?
Divorce is not the end
Those who continue to co-parent will have no choice but to continue to work together, if only for the sake of the child. While finding a positive avenue to discuss and resolve areas of disagreement will serve parents and family members in the years to come, attorneys can also be a part of the solution. As an active but professional advocate, an experienced Board-certified family law expert attorney in Collin County, Denton County or elsewhere throughout Texas can work with clients to help ensure that the tone for resolving conflict (at least on their side) is one of which they can be proud.