If the breakup of your marriage is something you have felt coming for a long time, it is likely that your spouse has felt it, too. Perhaps your marriage has been stressful, and you and your partner are ready to end their misery. If you are ready to move on, you may be hoping the transition can be smooth and free from contention.
Unfortunately, this is not always easy to achieve, especially if you have children. Custody issues can quickly turn into battles, which can create a breach of trust that is difficult to overcome while co-parenting. As much as you want to protect your children from the animosity of a custody dispute, you may be able to recognize whether this will be the pervasive atmosphere of your divorce.
Do you see your spouse in these actions?
For the sake of your children’s best interests, you are likely willing to put aside your differences with your spouse, even if he or she evokes feelings of disappointment, hurt feelings or even betrayal. This mindset is not always mutual. In fact, if you recognize any of these behaviors in your spouse, you may want to prepare for a custody battle that has the potential to turn toxic:
- Your ex speaks negatively about you to the children.
- Your spouse intentionally contradicts the rules and boundaries you have set for the children.
- You feel you are constantly on the defensive about how you spend any child support that your ex provides.
- You receive inappropriate, lewd or graphic texts or other messages from your spouse.
- Your spouse cannot behave or speak politely to you in public, even at events where the children are present.
- Your partner refuses to compromise when it comes to scheduling or other changes in the parenting plan.
Indeed, compromise is an essential part of successful co-parenting, so if your ex cannot adapt at this early stage in the process, you can be certain matters have the potential for getting worse.
If you sense that your custody dispute will become contentious and bitter, you will want to be certain you have all the help and resources you need. This begins by having a thorough understanding of Texas custody laws and how they apply to your situation. You may also want to be sure you have an experienced Board-certified expert Family Law attorney to protect your rights and fight for your goals throughout the divorce process in Collin County, Denton County, Dallas County, Midland County, Ector County, or elsewhere throughout Texas.