Some divorces happen because of a spouse’s bad behavior, but sometimes that behavior occurs during the divorce process. It’s best to be truthful and civil. Still, a soon-to-be-ex may be so angry or vengeful that they make false claims in court or during negotiations, figuring that it is another way to inflict their wrath or to secure a better settlement by lying on the witness stand under oath.
Don’t fight fire with fire
Whatever their reasons, these actions make your divorce more complicated and stressful than it needs to be. Even so, the victim of these lies should avoid fighting fire with fire by controlling their responses. It can help to limit communication and avoid being around each other. It may also help to have a neutral third party to transfer items and messages back and forth if the spouses live separately.
Documentation provides proof
Facts are a much more effective response to accusations and lies. You can help refute their lies by doing the following:
- Keep voicemails, texts, emails, and phone bills;
- Get screenshots of social media texts, with the dates on them, in case they delete them;
- Gather all financial information used for filing taxes, including bank and credit card statements;
- Get copies of police reports if law enforcement has been called by either party;
- Get statements from marriage counselors, witnesses, or even teachers to support your assertions; and
- Make legal recordings of conversations if you are in a state where it is legal to record conversations.
All this can help create a very different story than the one they are trying to lie about.
There is good news
High-conflict divorces are complicated, but eventually, the divorce will be final. The lying spouse may also end up perjuring themselves in court, which is a crime. An experienced, Board-Certified Texas Family Law expert attorney can help peel back the layers of their deceit and fallacies during litigation. They can also handle communications between the two spouses, particularly regarding the divorce and related arrangements.