Nearly every married couple goes through difficult times, and more than likely, few spouses have never spent a sleepless night trying to decide if the marriage was worth saving. For some couples, it takes very little to bring the marriage to an end. Other spouses seem to be able to weather a lifetime of storms and remain strong together.
If you are struggling with the monumental decision about whether to remain married or file for divorce emancipation, you certainly have many factors to consider. You may base your decision more on what the future holds than on your past, but it may help to think about some of the common situations that couples find hard to overcome.
Is my marriage over?
Marriage counselors may suggest that one spouse should not have to tolerate some behaviors from the other. It may be that you have already attempted to resolve these issues, perhaps more than once, and they continue to be a negative force in your marriage. If this is the case, you may find answers to your questions by seeking legal counsel for any of the following situations:
- Your spouse has a substance abuse issue, and he or she refuses to seek treatment.
- Your spouse’s undisciplined spending, shopping or gambling addiction constantly strains the family budget.
- Your spouse repeatedly violates your marriage vows by being unfaithful.
Perhaps the most critical situation you may be in is if your spouse is physically or emotionally abusive. You may reach a point in the relationship where you begin to take the blame for the abuse, and your spouse may even try to convince you of this. However, abuse is a form of control, and your spouse may be using violence to keep control over you.
Even if your spouse does not hurt you physically, you are still in an abusive relationship if your spouse constantly insults you, manipulates you through actual or implied threats toward you or your children, belittles you or yells at you. There are agencies and resources throughout Texas to help you escape such a destructive marriage, and your attorney can help you break free and start a life of your own.
Reaching a logical decision
For some spouses, the thought of giving up on a troubled marriage is difficult. You may hold on to the hope that your abusive spouse will change or that you can save your spouse from his or her addiction. However, this is not always possible, and you may be placing your well-being and the well-being of your children in danger.
Deciding to end your marriage is certainly not a conclusion to reach lightly, and countless couples have overcome obstacles through counseling and therapy. There are also times when it is becomes clear that divorce is the best answer for all involved, and it would benefit a spouse from exploring all legal options with an experienced Board-Certified Family Law expert attorney.