The process of ending a marriage is a difficult, often emotional endeavor, even when you and the other party resolve to work together amicably on the terms of your divorce. A Texas divorce is never easy, but it can be especially complex when you are about to go through a divorce with a narcissist. If you are facing the prospect of a difficult divorce that will involve emotional hardship and mental duress, it is in your interests to know how to prepare ahead of time.
When the other party is a narcissist, he or she will be difficult to work with as you navigate the process of negotiations and discussions over the terms of your final order. In fact, negotiations may be impossible, depending on his or her behavior. Regardless of the challenges ahead, you can seek terms that will allow you to protect your interests and pursue a strong future.
Mental and emotional preparation
A narcissist will have a difficult time seeing any options outside of what he or she wants. Additionally, a narcissistic individual will also often try to act in ways that are intentionally harmful and manipulative. Since you are prepared for that type of behavior, you can prepare both mentally and emotionally for each step of your divorce. Some of the things you may find helpful include the following:
- Make sure that the individuals who are providing counsel for you throughout this process are aware of your concerns. They will need to prepare as well.
- Keep copies of everything, and try to document as much as you can.
- Stay calm, and know that the other person will do everything possible to get a reaction out of you.
One of the most helpful things to remember is that you need to remain focused on what is most important, which is the well-being of your kids and your long-term security. By remaining focused on these things, you will be less likely to react poorly and make an imprudent decision based on your temporary emotions.
A long-term perspective
It will not be easy to keep a long-term perspective, especially if you are divorcing a narcissist. However, you do not have to navigate this difficult process on your own. You will benefit from seeking guidance regarding how you can protect yourself, avoid decision-making based off your temporary emotions and seek the best possible outcome for you and your family.