Whether you and your spouse tied the knot less than five years ago or you have been together for 20 years or more, it is logical to assume that by now, you have encountered challenging situations in your relationship. Newlyweds often face problems regarding sleeping or eating habits, social preferences or even privacy issues.
Once you were together for a time, you and your spouse likely overcame the minor impediments in your relationship and moved on to building a life together. If, at some point, you begin to suspect that your spouse is committing infidelity, it is likely not a minor issue at all, nor will it go away on its own. Infidelity often leads to divorce; of course, you’ll want to make sure you are making informed decisions, so it’s important to know how to recognize the signs of cheating.
Has an established routine suddenly changed?
If your spouse has been coming home from work at roughly the same time every day for years and suddenly starts telling you he or she has to work late, it is definitely cause for suspicion. If you inquire as to whether there is a special project going on or ask what is causing the late nights and are met with a defensive attitude, it’s a red flag.
Have you been denied access to computer passwords?
If you are used to knowing your spouse’s passwords and are suddenly denied access, meaning your spouse changed passwords without sharing the new ones with you, there may be a reason for the secrecy. If you ask your spouse about it and are accused of trying to control his or her life or not minding your own business, you may want to further investigate the situation.
Are you uncomfortable with a new friend?
Is your spouse getting text messages or phone calls from someone of the opposite gender that you don’t know or are not friends with? When you ask your spouse about it or express your concern, does your spouse simply say they are “just friends?” If so, you should know that that is a typical response in relationships where infidelity is occurring.
Love versus being in love
It is common for the flames of passion to settle as years wane and two spouses have been together for a long time. However, if your spouse says that he or she loves you but is no longer in love with you, it is a definite sign of marital trouble and may be a sign of infidelity.
Where to seek support
Infidelity and marital problems are intensely personal issues. If you have a trusted friend in whom you can confide, you may be able to seek sage advice as to how to confirm or deny your suspicions, and what options you have if you find out your spouse has been unfaithful. If you determine that the course of action you want to take is to file for divorce, in can be quite helpful to consult with an experienced Board-Certified Family Law expert attorney in Collin County, Dallas County or Denton County, or elsewhere throughout Texas.